Mr. David Okike, the man whose wife, Sandra Obi, alias Ada Uburu, called off their marriage citing domestic violence, has told his own side of the story.
Recall that Miss Obi, had in a viral social media post on Wednesday, called off her wedding and traditional marriage originally scheduled to hold today, Saturday, April 16, claiming that she had been in an abusive relationship.
Her claims which came in the wake of the death of popular gospel artiste, Osinachi Nwachukwu, who was said to have been subjected to series of physical abuse by her husband, Peter Nwachukwu, leading to her death, attracted interest from many on social media.
“I never wanted to bring this here but I have to, I am a type of person who likes to keep my relationship away from social media but this is for clarification purposes,” she had said.
“This was my secondary school classmate who I thought I knew to an extent. On December 28, 2020 he did the 1st and 2nd stage in my family marriage list which bride price happened to be on the 2nd stage which he paid. After he paid my bride price he started maltreating me.
“2021 was hell for me that at some point I left home, after everything we settled around November 2021 which he promised he will never beat me again. But still nothing CHANGED.
“This is my reason why I am CALLING OFF the Traditional Marriage (Igba Ngwu) and White Wedding ceremony between me and DAVID OKIKE OFF. (Beating me was not part of the agreement in our Marriage)
“This Saturday should have been my traditional and white wedding ceremony day…. I supposed to be happy but I am not.
“For couple of months now I have been going through a lot.
“I have been in a T.O.XIC RELATIONSHIP for OVER a YEAR now.. I am aware that this may be a shock to many people, especially people from my Home Town. My supposed husband HIT and ABUSE me in any slightest provocation, just small misunderstanding without minding what condition I am into.
“Because I have chosen ME and I will not live my entire life facing DOMESTIC VIO.LE.NCE. My supposed husband is full of R.AG.E, B.EA.TING me with his Belt, Stick, Broom is his DAILY ROUTINE, Many a times he had lifted his hammer ???? on me and this Monday last week just because of little misunderstanding he beat me mercilessly and on the process of it he rushed into his mother’s kitchen for a cutlass, when I noticed he’s going for a weapon I locked the door behind him which he forcefully opened, both his mother and Sisters and some neighbors were begging him not to cut me with the cutlass … With all these things and more I am fed up.
“I AM CALLING OFF THE WEDDING AND TRADITIONAL MARRIAGE (IGBA NGWU) BETWEEN ME AND DAVID OKIKE that supposed to hold on this Saturday 16th, April 2022.
“Please to my family and friends I am so sorry for any inconvenience this may have caused you.”
“But I will not end up with a man who always promise that if I didn’t k.i.ll him, that he will k.i.ll me.
“I am still suffering from unstoppable headache I sustained from the head injury he gave me 3 weeks ago.
“The ‘bride price paid’ will be Returned in due time.
“Please Respect my choices. Thanks and God bless you all.”
However, telling his own side of the story in a post on Facebook on Friday night, Mr. Okike denied beating Obi as claimed, noting that she concocted lies to justify her decision to call the marriage off because she never wanted it in the first place.
He said they had dated for three years, within which period she aborted her pregnancy by him three times without his consent.
“Contrary to the statement my wife posted on her Facebook profile bearing Ada Uburu, which is currently trending, this is my story,” Okike wrote.
“Let me first clarify that we have dated for over 8 years and she bears Ada Uburu with her official name, Michael Helen Ozioma, and another identity – Sandra Obi, which she uses to suit her purpose of identification at a particular time. Within these years, I have never on any occasion, irrespective of the level of provocation, raised my hand on her and this is because I respect adore her. There was no such occurrence where I raised a knife, cutlass, and or harmer on her and it was shocking to read her fabrications in that regard.
“Accepted that there is no perfect relationship, I can’t deny the fact that we sometimes disagree but it never led to assault as she alleged. I make the above statements knowing that we were not living alone but surrounded by relatives who can as well serve as witnesses to how we lived while we were together in my house. My mother-in-law still keeps in touch to date. This goes to prove that she is on her own and doesn’t enjoy her family’s support in the destructive line she has towed.
“This is difficult for me to bring to the public domain but I am aware that he who asserts must prove and that silence sometimes means acceptance and as such, I am handicapped safe from letting the public into this issue. I am now certain that she isn’t the woman meant for me as She is more interested in tarnishing my image and ruining my reputation after swindling me and postponing our scheduled marriage for four consecutive times. To what gains exactly? Even after terminating three of my pregnancies without my consent. Why would a rational thinking woman keep quiet while I spend heavily on wedding arrangements when she was convinced she didn’t want the marriage to hold.
“She had always maintained that she never wanted a child before wedlock, which I accepted and respected her decision because of the love I have for her. After paying her bride price in 2020, she took in and terminated the pregnancy at Federal Teaching Hospital, Abakaliki. That was the third pregnancy she terminated. I was pained and we had some misunderstanding and it got to a stage where my mother-in-law got worried if she could still get pregnant because of her series of abortions. Be it as it may, when we went for marriage counseling, the church decided that her condition doesn’t permit holy matrimony but rather marriage blessings, this got her unnecessarily worked up. She became hostile to me and got angry at any little provocation. It was the height of her frustration. She isn’t what I bargained for after all.
“The pictures I see all over the internet are misleading and a ploy to lead the general public astray. This is someone I have supported financially even to the extent of opening a pharmaceutical and poultry business for her, facilitated her covid 19 grants which she never gave me a dime from, rather she had her way and lavished it on her extravagant lifestyle.
“I thank God that she is taking this direction and I accept and respect her decision. But telling lies to play a victim, is way beyond normal and unacceptable. Regardless of what happened, she is having my child, and the Uburu tradition and culture don’t allow that I receive the dowry I paid as she is pregnant for me at present, when she delivered my child, I will surely receive my dowry. A woman with multiple identities.”
